Happiness on the Cost of?

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There is a mutually agreed belief that the purpose of life is the pursuit of happiness.  And less is talked about how to pursue happiness; is it on the cost of other people? Everyone tells you to be happy but nobody defines the way to acquire things that make us happy; the ethical and more appropriate way perhaps. Sometimes, we acquire happiness for us by hurting others. The inequality and injustice occur in this world because they are the reason of happiness for some other people. The moral and ethical perspective in the pursuit of happiness is often ignored and is remained undefined. Hence, we witness social inequality worldover.

~Philo W.~

Empty Hands filled with Hope

A Muslim pilgrim prays at the top of Mount Noor in Mecca

I have nothing in my hands,

That I raise to seek you.

I earned nothing in life,

But faith to meet you.

I share all my grievances,

And cry on your shoulder,

To praise your Majesty..

To seek true Guidance..

And Forgiveness.

Of all sins,

And for evil intentions.

Fill these empty hands,

With firmness of Faith,

In the unseen world.

With determination,

And consistency.

I seek your Companionship,

For which I’m bearing,

The burden of life.

~ Umair R.~

Sparkling Half Naked

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Freedom is happiness

I noticed that educated and sophisticated people in the world make their lives difficult and complex by thinking they can buy happiness and peace for them by working as hard as they could to make more and more money. In pursuit of which, they let go the most precious moments unnoticed because they are too much focused towards their goal. I’m not rich so I can’t say whether the acquisition of wealth brings contentment. But by simply looking at the sparkling face of this young boy – half naked and barefoot, I can certainly claim that real happiness is not bought by branded clothes and shoes.

Marching Towards Inner Peace..

Inner PeaceThe word freedom has multiple connotations. For me freedom is a calm feeling to live a life free from all fears. A greater part of our lives go wasted while being trapped in mixed feelings of fear and unknown confusion about our own existence or the world we are surrounded with. We get too many questions to answer and some worries and concerns about daily life chores that made us pre-occupied with strange thoughts thus failing to get real exposure of life – The life which is long awaited behind the shadows of darkness and uncertainty. This is the point where faith serves as vehicle and shines a ray of hope emerging from dark clouds of disappointment, fear or any other negative energy.

Life is meant to be lived fully with the interest-in-life intact. Every day brings a hope towards life and motivates you for moving forward. I agree many internal and external factors discourage us in our struggle to live in peace and at the same time it depends on us to what extend we let those pulling factors rule our mind. Mind is the admin of body and it is controlled by soul. Soul is absolutely free from time and space. It’s our choice if we work harder on outer body and appearance or strive to nourish soul to get the inner peace of mind. By doing this we would not only become free from stress and all other negative energies but also start emitting positive vibes and surround ourselves with favorable environment which will protect our inner peace by not letting external situations affect it.

Blessings be upon You.

Blessed Or Deprived? – Something that we often think about..

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We are Blessed. Alhumdolillah.

Sometime I consider myself as the happiest and luckiest person of this world who has everything that he wished for. While at times, my high level of excitement enters into the darkness of negativity and thoughts of pity, guilt and regret get more powerful than that of positive ones. Being a human, most of the times we ignore blessings of God and instead of being thankful and feel blessed about our belongings and powers, we indulge in complaining of what we don’t have in life. At the same time, we think of things that in our opinion we deserve and ignore all things that we have that we don’t deserve.

Life brings smiles and pain simultaneously to test our patience and strength of character. Good character motivates us to be thankful and blessed while bad character empowers our negative energy and make us feel sad and deprived. If we look closely, we get to know that we all have options in life. When God closes one door of opportunity, He opens another one. This may happen a bit late than what we expect, therefore we get impatient and consider ourselves as the unluckiest person on the planet.

If we look around us, we all have options in life to do and not to do. There is no compulsion to do what we are doing at the moment. If we realize that God is driving our vehicle of life, we may not feel unhappy or impatient. Instead we receive all the blessings and mercy of God with open arms and warm heart and when He takes away something from us, we would think it happened on the wish of God therefore, it should have happened this way and we won’t complain. Whatever happens in life is for good that we often realize later. This thought alone gives so much positive energy. Try it next time in your dark phase.

Blessings be upon You.

LOVE – the superficial & over rated emotion !!

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Love is around You !

I was just having a conversation with my friend about love. When I asked him about what he think of Love. He surprised me saying he has tried to Google many definitions of the word Love but unfortunately couldn’t get a proper and complete definition. I smiled on his sweet reply and on his innocence. In all generations, this is the most discussed topic, in books, television, movies, even it’s a hot point of conversation during teen and young age.. People falling in love with each other and feel it differently in different situations and time.

Well, I think society and especially media have made this simple thing so complex that people spend their lives waiting for the right time for the right person to fall in love. I believe, the purest and the unconditional love is of God that one can find using all his five or six senses around him in His universe. this is the Love of Creator with His creation that is so apparent that we humans take it for granted. How many of us appreciate that we are living a life that somebody might be fighting for and counting his last few breaths on death bed. We can see the beauty in green plants and colorful flowers, in the light rays at the time of dawn and dusk. We can smell our favorite perfumes and natural fragrances, we can taste the delicious food and enjoy dining in and out with family and friends. We can walk on our feet that some people can’t have this privilege. But the overwhelming desire of having latest and luxurious vehicles deprive us to enjoy and be thankful of this blessing of God.

I would like to share the point when a human being is loved by other human being after God. It was a mother’s love, she loves a child and feels his presence and life in her womb even before seeing her child. That is Love. the true and unconditional. So it is about the purest and honest feeling that we feel for us or someone else. it could be for a plant or animal as well.. and if we start loving us and count blessings around us than we would definitely be thankful for everything. so Stop waiting for Mr. Right or Miss Right ! and appreciate and celebrate the love that is inside you and everywhere spread around you. Things come to us on the right time, worrying and desperation just ruin our present that is a Gift and is so Beautiful.

Blessings upon you.

Way towards Peace & Freedom

The word freedom has multiple connotations. For me freedom is a calm feeling to live a life free from all fears. A greater part of our lives go wasted while being trapped in mixed feelings of fear and unknown confusion about our own existence or the world we are surrounded with. We get too many questions to answer and some worries and concerns about daily life chores that made us pre-occupied with strange thoughts thus failing to get real exposure of life – The life which is long awaited behind the shadows of darkness and uncertainty. This is the point where faith serves as vehicle and shines a ray of hope emerging from dark clouds of disappointment, fear or any other negative energy.

Life is meant to be lived fully with the interest-in-life intact. Every day brings a hope towards life and motivates you for moving forward. I agree many internal and external factors discourage us in our struggle to live in peace and at the same time I know it depends on us to what extend we let these pulling factors rule our mind. Mind is the admin of body and it is controlled by soul. Soul is absolutely free from time and space. It’s our choice if work harder on body and make it rule our mind or be friends with soul to get the inner peace of mind and body. By doing this we would not only become free from stress and all other negative energies but also start emitting positive vibes and surround ourselves with favorable environment which is much required to enrich beautiful mind and soul.

Short Keys to Unlock Happiness

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Happiness is not very expensive even in this era of social frustration. In most of the cases, we have to pay the cost of everything which we wish to bring in our acquisition. As they say, there is nothing like Free Lunch in this world. Similarly, Happiness has a cost too. But this cost is not paid in cash or through your credit card. You might be thinking about your new house in a posh area or your luxurious car or branded clothes which you recently bought for yourself, for which you have paid a handsome amount and feel so much happy about this asset. Is the material acquisition of goods enough to make a person happy and satisfied? NO. If goods could make you happy; then the elite women would not have to fix appointments with a psychiatrist for their mental peace.
There is no specific formula for happiness or inner peace. However, I figured out some common cognitive attributes which may be helpful in releasing depression and accelerate positivity in your thoughts.
Value Yourself: The first very important point which leads towards happiness is to value yourself. Don’t think that you are worthless creature. Allah (s.w.t) has created every living being with a purpose and none of His creation is useless. Start analyzing yourself by pointing out your strengths and solution for your weaknesses. Think about your achievements and feel good about them. With a low level of self esteem; you should not expect to live a happy life.
Your are Not Here to Please Everybody: Most of the times we do things to make others happy: our bosses, management, husband, wife, friend etc. I’m not asking you to annoy them but at least stop killing yourself to meet their expectations. You are a Human who has his own life, likes and dislikes, dreams. You should do things which make you happy and of course which do not deviate from your code of ethics and moral standards. If an evening walk makes your mind fresh then go for it; don’t wait for a friend to accompany you. If you feel like having an ice cream; don’t beg your brother or husband to get it for yourself. Make a wish list and start following.
Ignore the phrase “Log Kia Kahengay” : Usually before doing something of our interest, the first phrase which strikes our mind or mom says is “Log Kia Kahengay” (what would people say). Just remember people are here to talk. They would comment or rather criticize even on your positive behavior. So just ignore them and judge your actions on your own parameters. You are intelligent enough to weigh the impact of your action on you and others. If something, according to you, is fine then its fine.
Worries about materialistic acquisition: Today, we live in a capitalist world where the purpose of living is to make as much money as we could in order to consume ‘Everything’ which others have. Being Muslims, its our faith to believe in the power of Almighty Allah. I heard a very deep thought sentence from a friend that “Naseeb se ziada aur waqt se pehlay kisi ko kuch nahi milta” (You cannot get more than your destiny and before time). It is not in our hands but to work hard with honestly, is surely within our reach. So we should play our part and leave rest to Him who plans better than us.
Praise people who deserve: Sharing happiness of others inculcates positivity in our thought and attitude. If your friend gets a position in exam; you must congratulate him on his success and share his happiness. Similarly, your colleague who gets a promotion deserves your honest wishes on his achievement. Be the part of your closed ones on the occasion of happiness and grief. This will make your heart kind and tender and you would start taking things positively.

Review: Veronika Decides to Die by Paulo Coelho

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Veronika Decides to Die by Paulo Coelho

I just finished reading a Paulo Coelho’s book “Veronika Decides to Die” yesterday. The author beautifully told a story of a young 24 year old girl, Veronika; who was pretty, had a steady job, boyfriends, loving parents, thus everything that one could wish for to be happy. But she was not happy and she didn’t know why. Failing to recognize the reason for unhappiness, she decided to die and took over dose of sleeping pills. She was taken to hospital – rather a mental hospital where she was told that she was suffering from a cardiac disease and just had a week more to live. That was her life changing moment. She took pills because she wanted to die at once but now she had to live for six or seven more days and she knew that waiting for death is more painful than actual death.

She was given sedatives and other drugs via injections so initially she could not retain her consciousness for very long. She met with few people in asylum – Villete: Zedka who was suffering from depression, Mari, who was a lawyer, had panic attacks which Doc Igor referred as ‘fear’ and finally Eduard – the schizophrenic with whom Veronika fell in eternal love later on.
She met with Zedka and asked “what is mad”. Zedka explained her that mad person is the one who is different from others. He tends to deviate from the set norms or so called practices of society. Because most of us don’t have courage to act differently, therefore we don’t accept change. She gave examples of great scientists like Albert Einstein and Newton and philosophers who discovered hidden truth about life and this world. They were not the normal people. They were extra ordinary and thus changed the world from their knowledge. Zedka made sense to Veronika and she thought she should not have been admitted into mental hospital.
Veronika started feeling dull and lost interest in life, in fact few remaining days of life. She wanted to die but she didn’t know how to materialize her wish in a mental hospital where she was kept under observation all the time. She had enough time to think about her past. What she had and what she did in these twenty four years of life. Her past flashed back into her mind. She did a good university degree in law but ended up doing a job as librarian. She spent half of her life in eating sandwiches as a part of her set routine. Got back from work, rush into the bar, then to lover’s bed and finally hit her bed to sleep. She didn’t want to sleep in someone else’s bed. She was following this routine since long and thus left charm in life. She was scared of trying new exciting things. She probably didn’t know how to add colors to her life. At Villete, she tried few new things, like slapping to a Fraternity member was something she never thought of doing in public. She began playing piano. It was something she always wanted to do but couldn’t make it. There, she met with Eduard – schizophrenic who was living in his own world with a ‘Vision of Paradise’ in mind. He didn’t talk to Veronika but always asked her to play pianao in moonlight. Veronika started enjoying doing it for somebody she didn’t know.
At last, they both fell in love. Eduard told her his story what brought him into Villete. He wanted to be a painter but his family wanted him to pursue a career as diplomat. He indulged himself in abstract painting and envisioned to create a series of “Vision of Paradise”. His parents were frightened of losing him and he thought he had discovered himself. Upon negating his passion on the wish of his parents, he lost the interest in ‘real’ world and went into a ‘virtual’ world of his own imagination. When he was brought into Villete, he was diagnosed as mild schizophrenia.
Veronika was getting passionate about Eduard and frightened to lose everything soon. Because she was dying and it was her own wish.  Now she had just 24 more hours to live. She decided to make most of her every moment. She told Dr Igor that she wanted to go out and do things which she never did. She wanted to tell her mother that she love her. She wanted to explore the world. But now it was too late.
Same day Eduard and Veronika escaped from the Villete. They went to the most expensive restaurant, got drunk and started talking non sense. They laughed out loud and the restaurant manager had to ask them to leave without clearing the bills. They went to the castle at the top of hill and Vernokia asked him to paint herself after her death. She made him promise that he would continue painting because this is his passion.
Veronika didn’t die.
Dr Igor was successful in controlling Vitriol (Bitterness) in Veronika. He created ‘awareness of living’ by creating ‘awareness of death’. And it worked in case of Veronika. She had every reason to be happy but she tried to commit suicide. She could change her life by doing what she actually wanted. If she could please herself rather than pleasing others she might not have thought about taking her life. Interestingly, now when she knew she is alive only for few days, she got enough time to visualize and evaluate her past and look at the mistakes she did or the mistakes she never did. She had encountered the love of life at the most crucial stage. This is point when she realized that life is worth living.