Knocking at the Same door

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Why do I go there

Knowing,

There’s nothing new for me

Why do I knock at the same door

Over and over again

Knowing,

It will not be opened for me

Nobody is there to greet me

Then,

Why does my heart build

Expectations,

Maybe to get disappointed

Over and over again

Each time,

In different ways..

By different people

I don’t know..

Whether I belong to that place

Whether it owe me anything

But also,

I don’t know..

Where do I belong to exactly,

To the place where

My ideal resides

Where my eyes see

Materialization of the dream

that I saw in my youth

where emotions and feelings

Blossom even in rough times

Where there is a support

And a shoulder to rely on

Where love is appreciated

Without any discrimination

Where I am free to express

What I feel

Where,

There is someone to listen

To my rants and grievances

Where I won’t be judged for

What I have experienced

Willingly or unwillingly

I don’t know..

Whether such place existed

In this physical world

But,

My heart desire

To go to that place anyway,

By all means,

I will keep knocking at that door

Over and over again

Knowing,

Only silence & disappointment

Would greet me

Every time,

With more intensity

With more sincerity.

~Philo W.~

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But Keep on Dreaming

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I wonder if there is a place where all of our wishes come true, as soon as our mind desire them. Think of an A grade in exam and you get an A without putting much of an effort. Or you dream of a new model of BMW at night and next morning, you find the desired brand new car in your garage with keys hanging on your door handle. Can life be that dreamy? I know, it’s not and it can’t be. But just for a while, let’s ‘dream’ of a society where such miracles actually happen. Where wishes and dreams come true without praying to God or struggling for them!

Human life revolves around the pursuit of the dreams, ambitions and desires. Students work to get good grades while teachers work to get paid well. Mother spends her whole life to serve her children while father works hard to feed his family and to earn a comfortable life for his kids. In corporate world, employees work to get a monthly salary and a promotion at the end of the year, for that matter they spend 8 to 10 hours pleasing their bosses while the bosses with a suit and tie, do nothing but bother to maintain their reputation in front of the big boss. In this mechanical social cycle, one serves the other and in return gets served by someone else. For instance, your driver is your servant who gets your orders and keeps saluting you on his duty but at home, his wife waits to make him happy by any means. That helpless wife simultaneously spit her anger on her children and those children bully younger kids on streets and in schools.

In short, the wheel of society runs by getting orders from one side and giving to the other. Please the authority and get pleased by subordinates. The powerful has right to make laws for those who have to abide without questioning them and the powerful is above the law (this is what actually happen). And we all do this to earn our living. Of course, a man (who is a driver) doesn’t always like to salute his master or the maid at times may desire to get served by someone. But we do our duties to endure our life. And this is how this social system sustains itself.

We dream and desire and work hard to make our dreams come true. The entire purpose of living is to struggle for our dreams. But what if we don’t have to struggle to make our dreams come true? There would be no servant and no master. Nobody would like to travel via public transport if everyone could afford a car and a driver. But the question is who will make the car? And who would wish to become a driver? Would we like to go to the farms or villages to get vegetables for us? Or we should train ourselves for a haircut?

In this world, there is a majority of people who do what they don’t like. Not because they choose it for them but because there is no other choice left for them. The society decides professions. Whether one has to become the servant or the master? And that is the core principle on which this world of power revolves. Therefore, realistically, there would be no place where dreams come true by our own wishes. We have to achieve them through either honest struggle or unfair means. The unevenness and inequality in society is what keeps it going. We need sweepers, barbers, farmers equally as we need teachers, musicians and cricketers. It’s just that some of the occupations get massive respect for what they do perhaps they deserve it more because they have pursuit their dreams while others do their work only to sustain their living on the face of earth without getting enough respect and acknowledgement because they have not chosen their destiny and they don’t have time to dream.

Umair R.

Communal Threat to Humanity

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The emotional bonds seemingly providing a foundation for unity and integrity, often act as the greatest threat to humanity and the intended oneness of the human creation. In a generally known way patriotism unites the nation under one flag, and on the other hand develops cultural and political prejudice for people of other nationality. Similarly extreme religiosity may inculcate intolerance for other faiths and apparently pleasant and harmless human languages divide individuals of same kingdom into several apathetic groups.

This results in weakening of the most primitive bond of oneness and dwindling of the universal synchronization. Today a compassionate heart can witness countless incidents of ignorant and vicious acts done by a man to the mankind. From common discrimination among people to massive barbaric killing for the acquisition of power and resources, everything was emerged as a consequent product of human dissection, apparently aimed at empowering people with distinctive identity but terribly ended up in dissonance of human race. We are unsympathetic to the suffering of humanity because we have not been victimized specifically. In the absence of empathy when misery of one doesn’t disturb the other, only our individual suffering will make us realize what is meant to be hated, killed and abandoned. I’m afraid it would be too late then and nothing can be done with the belated realization.

Umair R.

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Changing Family Dynamics in Modern Times

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Changing family dynamics in modern times

Making others understand what you think is always difficult especially when you’re somewhat bothered with their opinion about you. Or sometime, you just want to win the argument with your sister, colleague or friend to have an edge on the on-going discussion. Let’s talk about the family here. Hmm family is still a robust institution of eastern society when escalating social, psychological and economic factors are abating its traditional roots. The structure of an eastern home has also transformed catering to the changing family norms, resulting in frustration for the elder members who are reluctant to the change and at the same time, for young individuals who are desperate to adapt new civilization model.

This family chaos not only affects the overall functioning of the institution but also endorse the existing stereotype perceptions about new generation. HOW? Let me elaborate that in easy words. An adolescent or a young boy who gets up for college in morning, hits gym, goes to cinema, dines out with friends and spends hours on internet so that’s how his lifestyle is. He is brought up in the same culture. It doesn’t mean he is not concerned about his grades or career. He is often judged as irresponsible on the basis of his activities in any family argument. An elder gets an edge at this point because using Facebook for 2 hours is useless and it makes sense to any sane person.

Now, let’s take other situation. A housewife and mother who spends most of her time in household stuff and for most of the women, television is the only entertainment to spend leisure time. Mostly she watches morning shows, or drama so that she could relate herself with those characters depicted on the screen and gets emotional boost. It’s her lifestyle that she adapted over a period of time. We often find husbands blaming their wives “what you do whole day? Just sit at home and watch TV” or frustrated wife yelling at husband “You spend all day out, How do you know about domestic issues”.

Ironically an intelligent techie kid who experiences world wearing 3D glasses, uses smartphones and believes in virtual relationships fails to fit in this traditional model of family. At times, he feels alienated in the orthodox system. He loves and respects his mom, dad and siblings but loses his temperament in explaining himself and giving justifications for his actions. He loves the artificiality and glamour of modernity and dreaming to see him there. He can’t help if he prefers drinking Coke over Orange Juice. Similarly, if he chooses to go out with friends on weekend rather visiting uncle’s house with family, it has nothing to do with morality or mannerism.

So, it’s about our brought up, lifestyle and environment that shape our personality and traits. We make our daily choices on the basis of the influences of what we see around and exposed to. Using Facebook could be as boring for a typical adult as reading newspaper for a young person. Problem arises when we judge others on the basis of our own perceptions and put labels on them because they fail to fit in our standards of morality and decency. There are many factors responsible behind any character. Understanding those factors can make you develop a better understanding about a person. But it happens only if you’re genuinely willing to understand, cooperate and accept him the way he is, otherwise it’s more convenient to make a false image.