‘The loneliness’ is a scary word. Nobody would want to end up lonely. We need people to find meaning in our lives, to appreciate us, to celebrate the moments of joy and share the sorrows.
We don’t want to spend time with ourselves because we are too busy in our social lives. We make plans of social gatherings with friends before the arrival of weekends. While at home, we get engaged with television or music. Today, the smartphone is our best companion.
It seems we hate our own company. We don’t like to meet with ourselves. People who do self-talk in the form of writing or poetry or if someone plays an instrument or paint – any activity that used to please us, is now meant to be public. Its worth is evaluated in form of ‘likes’ when put on social media. And the art which used to do our own catharsis makes us more depressed if not appreciated on social media.
Yesterday, my family went back to our home country and I’ve got some alone time here. In fact, today is my first day with solitude after a very long time. I am also like you who never want to be alone. I am also scared of loneliness like everybody is.
But something different happened today. I actually enjoyed my day. The day was spent in the usual activities but there was no external noise. I used to ‘think’ when living with family but today I could listen to the voice of my thoughts. And the difference is clarity in thoughts. The silence in environment calmed down the nuisance in my head. I achieved peace of mind and found myself quite relaxed even without doing any meditation or any such activity.
Solitude is not bad if perceived and treated properly. I am not advocating to live alone but rather loving our own company more than we love others’. I think we could be our best friends. And this friendship will be a lifetime one.